Dave was adopted as a baby, from a teenage mother in Twin Falls, Idaho. He was raised knowing he was adopted and never felt terribly compelled to find out who gave birth to him, until after his mission. At that point, anytime the topic came up, his adoptive mother threw what can only be referred to accurately as a bitch fit.
When Rebi was little, she had some serious medical issues, and we needed medical records on his birth family. We approached his father and requested that information, at which point, he said, "They're both healthy. No medical problems at all." and referred to a family friend who he was still in touch with. Dave's mother again threw a massive fit, sobbing and hiding in her room and giving everyone the silent treatment.
A few years ago, Dave asked again for information on his birth parents, now with a desire to connect to people like himself, as his adoptive family is extremely dissimilar. Dave's conversation with his dad was abrupt and the message was clear that there would be no information shared. Throughout this all, Dave backed down in an effort to not hurt his mother.
So, in a bizarre twist of events, Dave emailed his parents again yesterday and they called him today with the name of his birth mother and her parents. His father is not listed on the records. Not only is there no family friend with information, there is also no extended medical record. He was lying to keep Dave's mom happy.
Dave has now been on the computer for about an hour, searching for possible matches with the limited information that he has.